watching your language

We can show other people that we care by using the collaborative words below so that they can tend to the place where we want to see them on.

Trigger Word (to avoid) : Collaborative words (more effective) :
You should We can do this together
You can’t One alternative for you could be …
I can’t What I can do is
No That is not possible, because …
If only Let me show you what to do in the future …
But And
Bug or Glitch Issue or Situation
That’s our policy In order to provide you with great service …

the seven essential steps for change and leadership

We have to do something new in our life so that we can become a leader, a better person, help others, make the world a better place to live or achieve our goals. That’s why I wanted to share with you the following seven powerful essential steps, I just carried out, thinking it would be helpful for you.

1. Develop your personal health and energy :

To change, to make big changes in our life it requires a lot of energy. We need energy to break old habits. We need energy to establish and create new positive strong habits. We need energy to overcome difficulty. Sometimes we’re going to face difficulties. Sometimes we’re not going to feel like doing something that we really need and want to do. And if we have the energy, we can make ourselves do it. But if we’re tired, we can’t, or we won’t probably. So energy is vitally important.
And, of course, as we get healthier we’re going to find that our mental energy increases. We’re just able to think more and do more. We’re more creative. And our emotional energy increases, our positive emotional energy. We’ll feel happier, more enthusiastic, more passionate about things. That’s the engine, right? That’s the engine that affects everything else in our life. It powers everything else in our life. Any change we want, whether it’s improving ourselves or being a great leader or making more money. It doesn’t matter what it is.

2. Develop a personal mission or missions :

We don’t make changes unless we have a strong reason to do so. It doesn’t matter what job we have or if we are unemployed. It doesn’t matter what relationship we are in. It doesn’t matter what the situation in our life is. We can always be focused on our purposes. Because our purposes, missions are our fuel, okay ?
We need a powerful WHY, a powerful reason, a powerful purpose to do so. If we have a deeper purpose in our life, people will feel it and they will respond to us differently. We will be much more influential.

3. Understand deeply :

Well the first thing we need to understand is ourselves, right? We have to understand ourselves, our feelings, our thoughts, our motivations, our psychology…all of the stuff going on inside our head. This is true for a change we want to make personally in our life. It’s also true if we are trying to lead another person. If we don’t really understand what’s happening with ourselves, we’ll have a very difficult time making effective changes that last, that are long term. The second thing we have to understand is the situation, what’s happening with ourselves and the environment. What is the situation now? We need to understand it as much as possible before we start trying things. And finally we need to understand other people, other people who are involved in this situation, this problem, this challenge, this goal that we want to accomplish.

4. Get emotional leverage :

To make a change we need emotional leverage. It means strong, powerful, emotional reasons to change. Let’s get a common example, let’s say getting healthy or losing weight. Well there are millions and millions of people who want to lose weight and get healthier. “Oh I want to get healthier. Oh I’m going to lose weight. Oh I’m going to lose weight.” They have been telling us this, they have told us a thousand logical, rational reasons why they need to do this. Yet they have not done it. Why not? Because they did not get powerful emotional reasons that made them want to change so much that nothing could stop them; that would really just force them to change. That’s what emotional leverage is. We have to focus on the emotion, not on the logic.
Whatever change it is that we want in our life, we have to attach a lot of negative painful emotion to not changing. Make it terrible and really think about it constantly all the time, every day. Oh, if we don’t change, oh, it’s going to get worse and worse and be terrible. And, uh, and we’ll be a horrible people and it’ll suck and oh my god, right? And just make that emotion stronger and stronger and stronger. And at the same time, dream a little bit about our goal. And think about how wonderful and amazing it’ll be when we do make the change. And this emotional leverage is…it’ll change everything. In fact, just this step probably could help us make most of the changes we need to make. Don’t minimize. Don’t make the problem seem like it’s okay. Make it painful. Alright, we must feel it.

5. Destroy old patterns :

Usually people have distucting behaviors that prevent them from doing what they should do. Break and interrup that old behaviors that are stopping us from making the improvement we want.

6. Create empowering beliefs and visions :

Create empowering beliefs and a vision. Create an empowering belief structure and vision. In other words, we’re now going to add in something very positive and empowering, right? We scrambled and destroyed the old pattern and now we’re going to add in what we want. But it’s very important that when we add something in that we have to have the beliefs that will really make us do it. We have to really believe it deep down that, yes, this is real, this is true, this is going to happen. We can do it. We will do it. That’s very, very important. And then, of course, we also need to decide and identify the exact specific behavior that we want to do instead of that old thing. Alright, so again, we’re going to replace those old behaviors now and those old beliefs, consciously, with specific new ones.

7. Condition it :

We should reward ourselves for the new behaviors that we created until the new behaviors become automatic. We should celebrate every time, even if we only do the new behaviors a little bit.

Source : A.J. Hoge , Tony Robbins

reaching our dreams

My purpose with this post is to show you how we can achieve our goals or reach our dreams easily and which path is correct while walking on the long tough journey. I really want you to enjoy with my post.

To start with, I am going to talk to you about the behavior of giving up in the first part of my post and I think all of us have something we really want to do but have given up. Have you thought what it is that you really want to do with your life but you haven’t done? Maybe you wanted to be an artist or a painter. I know if you look back in your life, you can find something like these. In my life, I have seen many people who have been working at a job which is different from what they studied for. And all of us know that few people can be in control of their career. Usually their society leads their future. Most people feel stuck in their life. Unfortunately, this is true in every culture.

Secondly, I want you to think why we let our parents, bosses, friends or another person to steal ourdreams. I believe you decided not to continue doing what you want because you fear. We are taught to fit in. We are taught to avoid criticism. We haven’t thought of being remarkable. If we were different, people would start to criticize us. For that reason, we have always chosen to play it safe. Everybody has expected us to follow rules. I think we have been trained to be normal since we were children until right now. Standing out is not a good thing and people around us have always told us to follow others and do what other people have done. These seem like the best ways to failure. We have to know being normal is the formula to failure.

Let’s move on to the final part, I want you to think about what we have to do to reach our dreams again. How can we get rid of this routine life? I would like to draw your attention to the following suggestions. We have to discover what we are afraid of and we should face our fears and then move through them. It doesn’t matter what other people think, what other people say. We need to say, this is my big dream and I am afraid to do it. There is a wise saying I want to share with you. Feel the fear but do it anyway. If we do that, the fear actually goes away. Next, we have to identify our strong points of our personality and skills. What are the strongest points of our personality and skills? And then we have to excel at them and make them super strong. At the same time, we have to ignore our weak points. We need people to notice us. We have to demonstrate our skills instead of hiding them. Standing out might be quite difficult but this difficulty is only in our heads, our minds. Please trust me; no one is going to smack our face if we are different. No one is going to kill us; no one is going to lock us in a cage. At last, we have to take risks where we are strong. We have to try out new things. We must be extreme. I would like to emphasize again. Stop playing it safe and go get your dreams.

Thank you for your attention. Please feel free to ask me your questions.

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